My French Challenge
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Day 1
I can't do leek soup as recommended in the book, but I do have a pot of celery soup from last week, begging to be eaten. I made it from whole celery stalks (tops and all) and chopped onion sautéed in butter and olive oil. To the vegetables, I added sea salt and fresh cracked pepper, as well as a couple of shakes of curry powder. Once all the veggies were softened in the pot, I added organic vegetable stock and allowed it to come to a boil. After it simmered for awhile, I pulsed batches in my blender and added a touch of half and half for some extra creaminess. The soup kind of reminds me of a watery version of saag paneer (minus the paneer) which probably means it's not as low cal and healthy as it should be. Nonetheless, it's ready made, full of vegetables, and delicious. I think that qualifies it for the starter meal of my foray into Frenchification.
Saturday, June 23, 2012
“Most Americans eat at least 10 to 30
percent more than needed, not
to survive but to satisfy psychological
hunger.”
-French
Women Don’t Get Fat, pg. 8-9
Yes. Yes, we do.
Or at least I do. And it’s what I
did yesterday.
My eating wasn’t as
extreme as what it could have been. I
didn’t clean my plate despite a strong urge to do so and I didn’t have dessert
(at least not after dinner…). But my
choices, both at dinner as well as the rest of the day, were not figure-friendly. Especially not for someone who allegedly
wants to lose weight.
Generally speaking, I
have lost my equilibrium. Between
working/commuting 11 hours per day, 5 days a week, spending 4 hours or so, with
my baby once I get home in the evening, catching up on chores during the
weekends and sleeping (a basic necessity, no?), I don’t have any time for
myself. More specifically, I don’t have
time to even think about myself
anymore. I rarely look in the mirror these
days other than to ensure my hair isn’t sticking straight up and I don’t have
sleepies in my eyes. My wardrobe, while
prodigious and varied, is limited on a daily basis to one of three pairs of
slacks and a couple of nursing tops. Stealing
20 minutes for myself seems like a luxury these days, one I often can’t
afford. And, I guess, as a result, I eat
rich foods for comfort or, I eat excessively out of laziness.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s
not all because of the baby. I haven’t
turned into a sloth because I’m now a mom.
It’s everything. It’s work, which
takes up nearly three-quarters of my waking hours; it’s the house we’re in the
process of buying (7 months after moving into the house we’re currently
renting, by the way!); it’s the side business we own which requires attention
now and then to keep going; and yes, it is the baby too. He’s at that stage where he wants to touch
everything, do everything and go everywhere (on foot, of course) but can’t do any
of it on his own. As a result, my
husband and I are continually escorting him, his tiny hands gripping our thumbs
as he wobbles along our hard wood floors.
It’s so precious to watch, yet so painful on the back!
Each day, I promise
myself that I will eat mindfully and only until I am satiated but not stuffed. Yet each day, I overindulge at meals or snack
excessively. I don’t eat poorly; rather,
I eat organic, locally grown fruits and vegetables, grass-fed beef we bought
from a local farmer (a side of beef, in case you’re wondering, takes up an
entire 7 cubic foot deep freezer!) and home-made desserts or Nutella. I also love indulging in wine but, my
consumption being limited these days of breastfeeding my son, that’s the least
of my caloric transgressions. The
problem is the portion sizes and the omnipresence of snack food everywhere I
look.
Tomorrow, I plan on
initiating my French challenge. Being
the most quantifiable and measurable, my intent is first to tackle the excess
baby weight that still stubbornly clings to my tummy. I have seven weeks until Kauai and I’d like
to make as much headway as possible during that time towards feeling
comfortable in my own skin. I don’t
expect a miracle, but I do plan on dropping 10 pounds during that time and
hopefully, fitting into my old bikinis once again. While this may seem a superficial and vain opening
to my French challenge, I actually think losing some baby weight before pursuing
my other objectives (listed in my first post) may actually facilitate my later success. I firmly believe that you have to take care
of yourself and feel good about yourself before you can take care of others the
way they deserve to be taken care of. I
took great pains to pamper myself while pregnant so that I had ample reserves
from which to draw while the baby was young and very demanding of my time. Well, those reserves are dwindling and
something has to change. It has been 9
months since my son was born and I need to replenish. Likewise, my husband and I invested a lot of
time into our marriage before we had the baby, the hope being that the
foundation we lay beforehand would see us through the early, bleary-eyed months
of first-time parenthood. It has, and we
are still going strong. But again,
something has to change. First things
first, though. First, I need to carve
some mental space for my needs and my replenishment and then, back to my old
self again, I can attend to the slowly waning health of my marriage.
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Kauai was the last time I felt hot. Not temperature hot. Hot hot.
Good-looking-in-a-bikini hot. Turning-heads-at-the-beach
hot. That kind of hot. That was back in 2010 (immediately before I
got pregnant). My “hotness” resulted
from an unforgiving pursuit of shedding every possible pound of excess weight
before I got pregnant. I weighed 146 lbs
on that trip to Kauai. Today I weight
164.
This August, we’re going back to Kauai. It will be my first opportunity to don a
bikini since the baby and frankly, I’m not ready. I’m not physically ready, nor mentally
ready. That’s one of the desired outcomes
from this French challenge. Namely, a
beach ready body and the mind to go with it or, in other words, I want to lose
the baby weight once and for all but also be able to accept my new body for all
of its imperfections without hiding behind a Hawaiian shirt the whole
time. Not an easy task…
This is why I turn to Mireille Guiliano, author of French
Women Don’t Get Fat, who proposes to help American women live “bien dans sa
peau” (i.e. feel comfortable in one’s skin) the French way. This involves eating mindfully and in
moderate portions, including indulgences like chocolate cake. It encourages women to eschew fat-free,
sugar-free and diet foods in general, on the premise that eating foods that
don’t taste good compels one to eat more in an effort to feel wholly
satisfied. Instead, she suggests the
reason French women are slim, despite avoiding all diet foods, is that they eat
exactly what they want, when they want it, but that they do so in
moderation. Here’s my struggle with
this: what does “moderation” mean
exactly??? Does that mean I can have
cake every day as long as it’s only one slice of cake or does moderation mean
that I can only have cake once a week as a treat? Or maybe, moderation means that I can only
have cake at special occasions but that I can eat it cheerfully, without giving
it a second thought…? I have no clue!
The bottom line is
that it’s all relative. What is
moderation for a French woman can feel downright ascetic to an American woman,
especially one who is still breast feeding and has gotten accustomed to eating
however much she wants, whenever she feels hungry. The reality is, the French don’t eat very
much. Period. Even pregnant, French women do not “indulge”
the way we American women do when we are pregnant. They just keep eating the way they always do,
just maybe, ever so slightly, more.
Pamela Druckerman notes this phenomenon in Bringing Up Bebe, stating that remarkably, most French women look a
lot like the “pregnant” women we see on TV, skinny arms and legs, with a
perfectly formed baby bump. None of that
double chin, swollen ankles, and general puffiness we American moms-to-be seem
to be plagued by.
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
The What and the Why...
It seems like everywhere I turn these days, I run into yet
another book or movie concerning something French. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. The reason I’m running into all this
Francophilic “stuff” is because I’m looking for it. I studied French for 2 years in middle
school, as well as a combined 8 years between high school and college. Yet despite having studied French for a whole
decade, essentially half of my time on earth by the time I graduated college, I
never actually got around to living in France.
In fact, I have never lived abroad.
Ironic, considering that I was born overseas and lived for 18 years in
the most diverse melting pot in the world (NYC). Unfortunately, in college, I was too boy
crazy, too wrapped up in the relationship of the moment, to tear myself away
for a whole semester, even to live in an amazing place like France. Stupid, stupid, stupid! But unfortunately, water under the
bridge.
So, here I am, 33, married with a new baby, at the tail end
of an incredible career, about to live with my parents (long story), and all I
seem to do in my spare time (which, by the way, consists of 20 blissful minutes
both ways to work, sitting on a DC metro) is read books on my Iphone or watch
movies on my Ipad on all things French, sometimes without even realizing it. This fact hit me today as I read page after
page in the latest book I’m reading, The
United States of Arugula, by David Kamp.
The book is not about French cuisine; rather it is a book about the mid-twentieth
century rise of the American food establishment. However, despite the title and plot-line,
all I’ve been reading about thus far is “French cookery”. More specifically, the way French cuisine
influenced American palates after World War II.
I’m sure that’s no surprise to anyone; the French have always had a
corner on the market when it came to food.
But child rearing? The last book
I read, Bringing Up Bebe, by Pamela
Druckerman, talks about the universal truths of French parenting and how
different they are from the schizophrenic tenants that dominate American
parenting. Who knew? There is a French way to parent. Interesting…
That got me thinking back to the last book I read on something French, a
book I still had on my bookshelf, French
Women Don’t Get Fat, by Mireille Guiliano.
A book about pleasure eating and portion control, Guiliano educates her
non-French audience how to maintain a trim figure by eating cake (but not too
much). Again, who ever thought one could
lose weight by eating cake, so to speak?
Full of cultural norms that, on the surface appear paradoxical, the
French way seems to speak to us Americans.
Or maybe just to me… Either way, whether I like to admit it or not, I’m
hooked on all things French and I might as well accept it.
So accept I will.
I’ve decided to create for myself a 365 day French “challenge” whereby I
apply various French cultural norms to my own life (and that of my family, by
default, I guess). I will have to go
about it in stages because frankly, I barely have time to brush my teeth, let
alone upend my daily life. The plan is
to apply the “French way” to 4-6 areas of my life that could use
improvement. Specifically, lose the baby
weight (I still have 20 lbs to lose nine months post-partum – no judging!),
improve my marriage (again, post-baby alone time seems so hard to find these
days…), wrangle the increasingly forceful and dynamic personality of my infant son into
a slightly more French (read: well mannered) version of toddlerhood, and discover
a sense of work-life balance which seems to be wholly lacking in my DC-esque
rat race existence. Four areas for now,
with room to grow to six if necessary.
The purpose of this challenge is to create positive change
in my life but to do so gently. Too
often, I feel that we Americans are very brutal with ourselves when it comes to
self-improvement. At least I know I have
not been kind to myself over the years, whether it has been excelling at
academics as an adolescent, succeeding at work during my twenties, losing all
excess weight before my first pregnancy, or even just the daily push to do, do,
do during the day. There has got to be a
better way! I’m tired, I don’t sleep
well, my back hurts, my hips hurt, blah, blah, blah. Of course, I’m tempted to blame someone or
something else, but the reality is that I am the one who not being good to
myself. And I need to stop! This is my (gentle) attempt to stop.
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